Gentleman Redux

I agree with the above.

A woman who has a very unhealthy to non-existent relationship with her father will definitely have problems with men in general as she'll find it difficult to trust them and their motives. It was with great surprise as an adult and through a lot of psycho-analysis as well that I realized that some men actually do care for their families. And it always baffles me when I see men being all sweet and saying their families come first, or I hear daughters talking about their fathers with such warmth and in such glowing terms; and I ask my-self, "Do such men exist or is this just an act they (daughters) are putting up?".

I believe men are only after one thing: SEX.

They'll kill for it, lie for it, indulge in the most elaborate ruse, ruin lives for it be-cause no-thing must stand between them and their penis.

The man who gave birth to me treated his sons like Kings and his daughters like third rate citizens who do not qualify to be part of the human race. Women were good for several things:

A) Producing babies.
B) Penile receptacles.
C) Punching bags.

He treated my mother like a.... thing, used to beat her black and blue, put her in the hospital several times and once she even in a cast for four months. Damaged her psychologically. Today, she lives like a recluse in total isolation puttering around the house like a crazy person.

My brothers also followed in his footsteps as well. One is divorced, the other used to beat his (now ex) wife black and blue as well and also his exes and meted out the most horrendous violent and physical(non-sexual) abuse on me as well.

You can only imagine how this has affected my relationships with men. And then, to top it all, I'm very beautiful and quite sexy with a beautiful body, so they come at me like flies, they'll tolerate whatever non-sense I hand out- all because they want to bury themselves in me.

And then, there are those ones who carry you to show you off to their mates like you're cattle, and their mates pat and congratulate them for their "catch". Like you're a fish that was reeled in.

Everyone is plotting on how to get you in the sack.

No one cares about your mind, your hopes, desires, or your journey - past, present and future.

It's a vicious cycle that never ends, and it consistently affirms what the man who gave birth to me saw about women except I'll NEVER stand for that from any man, and I'll die first before a man will lay his hands on me.

I'm yet to see a man who doesn't see me as a trophy or try to take advantage of you once they realize you're from a broken home.

Because, the thing is: even if you don't say, somehow, a dysfunctional background ALWAYS peeks through the cracks of your seeming "normalcy".

Ok, I've rattled on long enough, and I hope I haven't deviated from my point as well.

May GOD Almighty bless us all and grant us solace in our lives.

Peace to us all.